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Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide To The Sex Life You Deserve was written by Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, a physical therapist with countless successes in treating pain of this type. Women with vaginismus, overactive pelvic floor, painful intercourse, vulvodynia, vulvar vestibulitis, vestibulodynia, dyspareunia, interstitial cystitis have all benefited from her unique program. Heather uses her orthopaedic background to approach treatment of these muscles like they are....muscles! She utilizes a self-treatment tool called a dilator to provide massage and other muscle relaxation and stretching techniques in a gentle fashion to return a women's muscles back to a resting, rather than guarded, state.

Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide To The Sex Life You Deserve

What Others are Saying About "Sex Without Pain ":

I have seen Heather's treatment program work time and time again with my patients. Her unique approach to treating women with painful intercourse through a combination of hands on skills, patient education and the thorough home program outlined in this book has surpassed the results of her peers. Her techniques and expertise have been an invaluable resource to my practice."

- Kerri Parks, MD (Associate Professor Ob/Gyn USC Keck School of Medicine)


I will use it frequently for clients who cannot afford pelvic floor PT or for those who cannot find pelvic floor PT any where near them! I have so needed this resource. The clarity of each step and the drawings are so helpful - I don't know of any other resource that will be as effective for self-help."

- Joyce Penner, RN, MN (Sexual Therapist, Educator and Co-author of The Gift of Sex, Restoring the Pleasure and numerous other publications)


Sex Without Pain is an essential book for any woman suffering with pelvic or sexual pain. Heather's approach is simple and clear. She empowers the woman and her partner with the resources needed to lead a healthy and pain free sex life. A great read for patients and professionals alike."

- Jennifer Briggs, DPT (Women's Health Physical Therapist, Pennsylvania)


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During this time of "safer at home" orders, we have been having to find more creative ways to move at home.

If you are someone that experiences urinary incontinence and/or pelvic organ prolapse you may not be going out now to see a pelvic health physical therapist to guide you through a routine. In this blog post I’m going to go over a few mat pilates exercises I like to do with patients that experience urinary incontinence and/or pelvic organ prolapse (POP). A study done in 2018 by Lausen et al, found that in the group that did mat pilates with standard physical therapy had more positive outcomes with their urinary incontinence, as well as, quality of life.

If you are unsure what urinary incontinence or pelvic organ prolapse is you can check out some previous blogs of ours (treating pelvic organ prolapse with pelvic floor therapy and preventing urinary incontinence). Before I introduce some of these exercises I want to make sure that you understand if you are experiencing pelvic pain or may be having urinary incontinence due to guarded or shortened pelvic floor muscles, you may have to begin with pelvic floor muscle lengthening/down-training first before strengthening.

Let’s get started with some of a few of my favorites…

1. Bridging (modified from shoulder bridge)

This is exercise incorporates your abdominals, pelvic floor muscles, and lower extremity muscles (i.e. glutes, hamstrings). The nice thing about this exercise for POP and urinary incontinence is that you don't have gravity working against the pelvic floor. This can help releave some pelvic pressure with POP and allow you to focus on a strong pelvic floor contraction.

2. Leg Circles (to assist with abdominal strength and pelvic stability)

This is a great exercise to work on your abdominals and pelvic stability. The goal is to keep your pelvis from rocking while you make circles with the leg. If you feel too much tension in your hamstring (back of the thigh) you can do the same exercise with a bent knee or make smaller circles. Do what feels best in your body.

3. Leg-Pull Front (similar to a plank with movement of your lower extremity. You can modify to just holding a plank as well)

As you can see you can do modifications if movement with the lower extremity is too challenging. Holding a plank is a great way to strengthen already. I love this one because you are working the whole body and you can really focus on pelvic alignment, making sure you stay in a neutral spine, and work on long holds with the pelvic floor muscles.

Just a few tips of when doing exercises with urinary incontinence and/or pelvic organ prolapse…

  • Especially with pelvic organ prolapse, when doing an exercise if you are feeling more downward pressure onto the pelvic floor, modify the exercise (i.e. maybe you are in more of a posterior pelvic tilt versus neutral spine or maybe the exercise might be too challenging for you to hold a pelvic floor contraction, so then just modify to minimize symptoms)

  • If you are experiencing urinary leakage with an exercise, it may just be too challenging so try an easier version (i.e. if you leak with the leg-pull front then just try holding a static plank and when you become stronger try again and see if you leak). Maybe you leak at count 3. So go up to 3 a few sessions and add another rep each time. See if that changes anything.

  • Exercises lying on your back will be less challenging than those in standing because your pelvic floor muscles aren’t working against gravity. Although the goal is to get stronger to do exercises in standing because the majority of activities we do in our daily lives are in standing.

Our Pelvic Health Physical Therapists are knowledgable about pilates and incorporates it into their treatment plans. For more info on what pilates is and how it can help your pelvic floor, check out a previous blog on pilates and the pelvic floor.

References:

Lausen A, Marsland L, Head S, Jackson J, Lausen B. Modified Pilates as an adjunct to standard physiotherapy care for urinary incontinence: a mixed methods pilot for a randomised controlled trial. . 2018;18(1):16

**This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to replace the advice of your doctor.

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A personal journey and testimonial from one of my patients:

My husband and I were married for 5 years before we were able to have intercourse due to my vaginismus. There was nothing traumatic in my past but for some reason, even though I wanted sex, I mentally avoided "that area" of my body and didn't even admit to myself that there was a problem for a long time, even though I was never able to put tampons in. Once I finally opened my eyes up to the fact that I had a problem, I had a surgery that was supposed to fix the issue.

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Testimonial by R.D., age 38

"I had a severe tear during childbirth that was not stitched together correctly and therefore healed poorly. Even after having a surgery a year later to remove the scar tissue, I was still having pain, and no one could explain why -- there was no overt 'reason' to explain the pain. I had tried other 'specialists' and even saw another physical therapist who had me do hip / leg stretches -- what a joke! I was about to give up and just 'live with it' until thankfully I kept searching online and found Heather.

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Testimonial by M.N., age 28

A personal journey and testimonial from one of my patients:

I was diagnosed with vaginismus 4 years ago. I never heard of such medical condition until after I got married. At first my husband and I didn't know what to do, we didn't know what the issues were or how to overcome it. Being born and raised in Armenia and being Christian I wasn't that open about talking to sex with others and so it wasn't easy to seek help. But eventually I went to an Ob-Gyn and luckily she knew about the medical condition (not many doctors know). She referred me to a physical therapist and I couldn't believe it and thought it's something I can handle myself. I ordered a kit from vaginismus.com and started practicing with dilators. There was some small progress but wasn't much helpful.

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Testimonial by Rosanna R., age 35

Heather has affected my life in the MOST POSITIVE way and I am forever grateful. My husband refers to her as the "sex doctor" so you can only imagine how happy he is with my therapy outcome.

After the birth of my son I suffered from "Vaginismus", however, at the time I just thought I was broken. My "broken vagina" affected me physically but it was an emotional struggle as well. Many women in my life also suffered with pain from sex after their babies were born so I knew I wasn't alone. They told me they "just got used to it" but I couldn't see myself living that way.

Sex wasn't just painful, it was literally impossible - IT DIDNT FIT!

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Testimonial by S.B.

As someone who suffered the debilitating physical and emotional effects of vaginismus (as well as a complicated history of back injuries) for more than 15 years, I thought a "normal" life was just a fantasy. Then I found Heather.

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Testimonial by R.M., Age 40

I can’t speak highly enough of the theapists at Femina Physical Therapy and how much they have helped me grow, discover, and love my body. I had had painful sex for my entire life, and didn’t know that there was anything that could be done about it. It was at the point where my husband and I were not having sex for MONTHs, because it was just too frustrating, and I hated feeling like I was the ONLY woman out there who had this problem, especially at my age. I finally brought it up to my doctor because I was turning 40 and my husband and I were barely having enough sex to conceive. And she brought up pelvic floor, PT. I didn’t even know this was a “thing”.

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