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Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide To The Sex Life You Deserve was written by Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, a physical therapist with countless successes in treating pain of this type. Women with vaginismus, overactive pelvic floor, painful intercourse, vulvodynia, vulvar vestibulitis, vestibulodynia, dyspareunia, interstitial cystitis have all benefited from her unique program. Heather uses her orthopaedic background to approach treatment of these muscles like they are....muscles! She utilizes a self-treatment tool called a dilator to provide massage and other muscle relaxation and stretching techniques in a gentle fashion to return a women's muscles back to a resting, rather than guarded, state.

Sex Without Pain: A Self-Treatment Guide To The Sex Life You Deserve

What Others are Saying About "Sex Without Pain ":

I have seen Heather's treatment program work time and time again with my patients. Her unique approach to treating women with painful intercourse through a combination of hands on skills, patient education and the thorough home program outlined in this book has surpassed the results of her peers. Her techniques and expertise have been an invaluable resource to my practice."

- Kerri Parks, MD (Associate Professor Ob/Gyn USC Keck School of Medicine)


I will use it frequently for clients who cannot afford pelvic floor PT or for those who cannot find pelvic floor PT any where near them! I have so needed this resource. The clarity of each step and the drawings are so helpful - I don't know of any other resource that will be as effective for self-help."

- Joyce Penner, RN, MN (Sexual Therapist, Educator and Co-author of The Gift of Sex, Restoring the Pleasure and numerous other publications)


Sex Without Pain is an essential book for any woman suffering with pelvic or sexual pain. Heather's approach is simple and clear. She empowers the woman and her partner with the resources needed to lead a healthy and pain free sex life. A great read for patients and professionals alike."

- Jennifer Briggs, DPT (Women's Health Physical Therapist, Pennsylvania)


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Endometriosis Affects 1 in 10 Women of Reproductive Age

And yet the delay in diagnosis hovers around 8.5 years (Barbieri, 2017; Ballard, 2006), meaning that, on average a woman will experience 8.6 years of symptoms and disease progression before they are diagnosed with the disease.

What is Endometriosis?

Endometriosis is a condition where endometrial-like tissue grows outside of the uterus (endometrial tissue is tissue that usually grows inside of the uterus and sheds each month). The most common area for it to grow is in the abdominal cavity, where it can implant on the surface of other structures including the ovaries, bladder, rectum, and along the walls of the abdomen and pelvis.

The true prevalence of endometriosis is unknown since it takes a laparoscopic procedure to confirm the diagnosis, and many women either have no symptoms or seek no treatment (Bloski, 2008). However, up to 78% of women undergoing laparoscopic investigation for infertility and up to 82% of women investigated for pelvic pain were found to have endometriosis in one study (Schenken, 1996).

Common Endometriosis Symptoms

Commonly reported signs and symptoms from those with endometriosis include:

  • Abdominal pain
  • Pelvic pain
  • Painful periods, AKA dysmenorrhea
  • Heavy or prolonged periods (menorrhagia)
  • Pain with sex (dyspareunia) and/or bleeding after sex
  • Pain from periods and/or sex are not responsive to over-the-counter pain medicines (NSAIDs) or use of birth control pills
  • Pain from periods or sex that leads to inability to go to school or work
  • Multiple visits to the emergency department for severe period pain
  • Urinary frequency, urgency, and/or pain with urination
  • Diarrhea and/or constipation
  • Nausea
  • Abdominal and bowel cramping
  • Abdominal bloating and/or distention
  • Endometriosis in the patient’s mother or sister
  • Issues getting pregnant with regular ovulation, patent fallopian tubes, and a partner with a normal semen analysis

Why the delay in diagnosis?

In a 2006 study by Ballard et al., they discussed the reasons why the average 8.5 year delay in diagnosis existed. Unfortunately, many of the factors they presented almost 15 years ago continue to delay diagnosis for women today.

People thought their pain and symptoms were “normal”

Many people with endometriosis don’t report symptoms like painful periods, abdominal cramping, and pain with sex to their doctors because they think it’s normal or that they are “unlucky.” This can be due to family members or relatives also reporting painful periods which causes the person with endometriosis to simply think that their pain is normal and it’s their problem to bear alone.

Women in the study also reported that they were too embarrassed to talk about their pain with their friends, fearing stigmatization or appearing weak, “dramatic,” or unable to cope.

So: is it normal to have cramping? Yes. The uterus does indeed contract to shed the lining of the uterus. However mild to moderate often responds to over the counter pain medication (NSAIDs), heating pads, gentle exercise and adequate hydration. The key difference with those with endometriosis is that the pain does NOT respond to interventions such as over-the-counter NSAIDs and can get in the way of their functioning at school, social life, or work.

Femina PT owner, Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, wrote the following article on how to educate your young daughters about endometriosis here.

Doctors tell women that the pain is “normal”

While some women hesitate to tell their doctors about their symptoms, others DO tell their doctors only for the doctors to tell them the pain is normal. Many of these General Practitioners (GP) are not aware of endometriosis and simply advise taking pain killers or prescribe birth control pills to help “control” periods and reduce bleeding. In some unfortunate cases, clients in the study reported that their doctors suggested to them that their pain was “all in their head.”

Birth control pills or pregnancy provide some relief

Some women with endometriosis report that going on birth control pills or pregnancy help with endometriosis symptoms. This is due to the shift in hormones during pregnancy and while on birth control. While these shifts in hormones can indeed provide some relief, unfortunately it can add to delay in getting a diagnosis of endometriosis.

Transvaginal scans can’t identify most endometrial growths

In the study, the most common diagnostic scan women were asked to do was a transvaginal scan or ultrasound. According to Ballard (2006), this type of scan is only good at identifying endometriomas (endometriosis cysts on the ovary) and inadequate at identifying endometriosis in other areas. Out of the 32 women in Ballard’s study, only one had a transvaginal ultrasound find an endometrial growth, while in reality 28 of the 32 women had endometriosis. Women reported that getting scan results that said “negative” added to their doubts that something was wrong.

Diagnosis can provide psychological relief and a roadmap to healing

The women in Ballard’s study expressed relief when they received their endometriosis diagnoses; some were relieved they did not have cancer, others were relieved to have their pain and experience be validated.

Having a diagnosis also helped women advocate for themselves and be able to talk about their condition. For those in school or working, they suddenly had language to use to discuss their condition with teachers and employers, and they were able to ask for accommodations around their pain, especially during certain times of their cycle.

For others in the study, having a diagnosis gave them validation and reason to give themselves a break, and to be able to say “no” to social activities and other obligations when their pain was flared.

The most important factor in early detection and diagnosis of endometriosis is increasing awareness of endometriosis symptoms, particularly for parents, guardians, and young women. Again, check out Heather’s blog post about talking to your daughters about endometriosis here.

Resources

Bloski, T., & Pierson, R. (2008). Endometriosis and Chronic Pelvic Pain: Unraveling the Mystery Behind this Complex Condition. Nursing for women's health, 12(5), 382–395. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1751-486X.2008.00362.x

Surrey, E., Soliman, A. M., Trenz, H., Blauer-Peterson, C., & Sluis, A. (2020). Impact of Endometriosis Diagnostic Delays on Healthcare Resource Utilization and Costs. Advances in therapy, 37(3), 1087–1099. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12325-019-01215-x

Barbieri, R. (2017). Why are there delays in the diagnosis of endometriosis? OBG Manag. 2017 March;29(3):8, 10-11. Accessed at: https://www.mdedge.com/obgyn/article/132337/gynecology/why-are-there-delays-diagnosis-endometriosis

BALLARD, K., LOWTON, K., & WRIGHT, J. (2006). What’s the delay? A qualitative study of women’s experiences of reaching a diagnosis of endometriosis. Fertility and Sterility, 86(5), 1296–1301. doi:10.1016/j.fertnstert.2006.04.054

**This information is for educational purposes only and is not intended to replace the advice of your doctor.**

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Testimonial by J.H.

My last appointment with Heather was over 6 years ago but I still think of her every day. I don’t take for granted that I can easily get out of bed, care for my two active and busy young boys, run, play tennis, clean my house, or sit at a desk for several hours at a time. None of these tasks were easy for me before meeting Heather. Eight years ago my car was struck from behind by a tractor trailer that was estimated to have been speeding. I spent 3 years working with different PTs and Drs trying to heal and move on with my life. When I became pregnant and the hormone relaxin that “relaxes” all the joints of the body and the additional weight gain erased all my progress and I was suddenly in a lot of pain again. My OB sent me to Heather for one last try.

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Testimonial by R.S.

I wanted to thank you so much for helping me get through something I thought I may never be able to. We have achieved pain-free intercourse and this has really solidified our marriage. We are so grateful to you for all the work you do! Thank you!!

-- R.S.

Testimonial by A.B.

Before I was referred to Heather Jeffcoat I was living in a nightmare. I had been married to my husband for three years and I was suffering from Vaginismus. That all changed when I visited my OBGYN and she said she knew of someone with a great success rate. To be honest I was hesitant at first because my first doctor had already told me that all I needed to do was order dilators from the internet and I should overcome my problem. She was wrong because I had followed the book on how to use the dilators with absolutely no advancements in my condition. However, that all changed when I went in for my first visit and Heather took the time to explain my condition and how we were going to work together to overcome it.

I remember leaving her office with a glimmer of hope that I could live a normal life. As my sessions continued I began to see immediate results. With only four sessions and a strict dedication to my home programs I was cured of Vaginismus. In the beginning of this process I was made aware that my health insurance company might not cover the costs, which was disappointing but today I can say one hundred percent that it was the best money I ever spent. Now thanks to Heather I am finally enjoying my life to the fullest with my husband. Thank you Heather, I can’t begin to tell you how much I appreciate all that you have done for me. I will never forget it. Those who are suffering from these types of conditions don’t be afraid because she makes you feel so comfortable and the end result is worth it. Good luck to you all and I hope you experience the success I have.
-- A.B.

Testimonial by Carolina J.

I had tried Pelvic Floor Physical Therapy before (with another PT) and I had a really bad (painful) experience. A friend of mine and fellow patient, told me about Heather, Laureen and Femina PT (née Fusion Wellness & Physical Therapy) and I decided to try again. I am so happy I did! Femina PT have, literally, changed my life. I was able to do again things I couldn't do for over 10 years!! Their bedside manners are impeccable, their knowledge and understanding make me feel comfortable to recommend this place to anyone in pain. Specially if you have Endometriosis. 100% recommended!!

-- Carolina J., 12/28/16 via Yelp!

Testimonial by R.M., Age 40

I can’t speak highly enough of the theapists at Femina Physical Therapy and how much they have helped me grow, discover, and love my body. I had had painful sex for my entire life, and didn’t know that there was anything that could be done about it. It was at the point where my husband and I were not having sex for MONTHs, because it was just too frustrating, and I hated feeling like I was the ONLY woman out there who had this problem, especially at my age. I finally brought it up to my doctor because I was turning 40 and my husband and I were barely having enough sex to conceive. And she brought up pelvic floor, PT. I didn’t even know this was a “thing”.

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Testimonial by A.M.

Months after giving birth, it was difficult for me to go from a sitting or lying position up to a full standing position without feeling that I had to remain hunched over until a bit of time had passed to get fully upright. However, after taking Heather’s course, I learned exercises to get my body back to normal. She also showed me correct ways to lift and carry my son as well as put him in/take him out of the carseat and stroller. This class was really beneficial and Heather is a wonderful teacher who made me feel very comfortable.

-- A.M.

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