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Perhaps you've read all about endometriosis and learned about its causes, how to deal with its symptoms, and what kinds of treatments to pursue. And now that you've come to understand the situation, perhaps it's time to speak to your partner to let them know what you're dealing with and how best to handle it. Health Central writer Gabrielle Kassel hit me up about this very topic, and here are a few of my thoughts followed by a link to the full article.

Heather Jeffcoat, DPT

Wondering How to Talk With Your Partner About Endo?

The pain of endometriosis can make intimate relationships a huge challenge. Experts and patients give advice on how to talk about this invisible condition so that your partner understands.

By Gabrielle Kassel
Medical Reviewer: Andrea Eisenberg, M.D.

In this article Gabrielle Kassel speaks to a number of experts on endo, including yours truly. If you're suffering from pain during sex and looking for tips on how to talk with your partner about endo, read on. Topics covered include:

Why Hiding Endo Can Backfire

Gabrielle wanted to know about the potential pitfalls of hiding your pain. Here's what I had to say:

While having endometriosis will not necessarily impact your relationship in negative ways, hiding it can, notes Glashow. If your partner does not know when it’s your endo symptoms that have you avoiding occasional dates or certain sex acts, they may assume that you’re not interested in the relationship or serious about them long-term, she says. Worse yet, you shouldn’t feel you have to disguise any pain during intercourse. Gritting your way through intercourse can cause your pelvic floor muscles to clench up, which can hinder penetration as well as cause additional painful symptoms, says Heather Jeffcoat, a physical therapist in Los Angeles, CA, and author of Sex Without Pain.

Talk Specifically About Sex

She also wanted to stress the importance of being specific with your partner about how endo can affect your sex life, to which I said:

If pain during sex is a symptom you experience, you should share that with your lover, says Jeffcoat. Then, work with them, as well as your healthcare team, to come up with solutions—because there are solutions. “It can be helpful to remember that sex does not have to include penetration or intercourse to be pleasurable,” says Shannon Chavez Qureshiz, a licensed psychologist and sex therapist in Beverly Hills, CA. Pelvic floor therapy and OTC pain relievers can also be effective at reducing pain during penetration, adds Jeffcoat.

There is much great information in the full article which includes quotes from a number of other endo experts, including:

  • You Decide When the Timing Is Right
  • How Being Open Can Bring You Closer
  • Getting the Conversation Started
  • Keep the Conversation Going
  • You Can Learn About Endo Together
  • How Your Partner Responds Can Be Telling
  • Discussing Endo and Future Plans

Go here to read the full article and learn to talk with your partner about endo, and go here if you're ready to make an appointment with one of our trained physical therapists.

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Beating Endo by Iris Kerin Orbuch, MD and Amy Stein, DPT

From two of the world’s leading experts in endometriosis comes an essential, first-of-its kind book that unwraps the mystery of the disease and gives women the tools they need to reclaim their lives from it. 

Approximately one out of every 10 women has endometriosis, an inflammatory disease that causes chronic pain, limits life’s activities, and may lead to infertility. Despite the disease’s  prevalence, the average woman may suffer for a decade or more before receiving an accurate diagnosis. Once she does, she’s often given little more than a prescription for pain killers and a referral for the wrong kind of surgery. Beating Endo arms women with what has long been missing—even within the medical community—namely, cutting-edge knowledge of how the disease works and what the endo sufferer can do to take charge of her fight against it.

Leading gynecologist and endometriosis specialist Dr. Iris Kerin Orbuch and world-renowned pelvic pain specialist and physical therapist Dr. Amy Stein have long partnered with each other and with other healthcare practitioners to address the disease’s host of co-existing conditions—which can include pelvic floor muscle dysfunction, gastrointestinal ailments, painful bladder syndrome, central nervous system sensitization—through a whole-mind/whole-body approach.

Now, Beating Endo formalizes the multimodal program they developed, offering readers an anti-inflammatory lifestyle protocol that incorporates physical therapy, nutrition, mindfulness, and environment to systematically addresses each of the disease’s co-conditions on an ongoing basis up to and following excision surgery. This is the program that has achieved successful outcomes for their patients; it is the program that works to restore health, vitality, and quality of life to women with endo.

No more “misdiagnosis roulette” and no more limits on women’s lives: Beating Endo puts the tools of renewed health in the hands of those whose health is at risk.

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I wish i could give this place 10 stars!! 
I have been suffering from vaginismus for 5 years and never found the cure to it. I had seen an ob/gyn and he diagnosed me with vaginismus and told me i needed a surgery to cure my condition, which i refused to do. He also referred me to a PT that he works with, i had given them multiple calls and they never responded back to me, so i started searching yelp for another PT. I am SO HAPPY I found Heather's office! I was working with Laureen, and with her guidance and techniques i was able to be cured from vaginismus in only 2 1/2 short months!!! I couldn't believe how quickly their program worked for me! I am forever grateful and thankful from Heather, and Laureen! They are the absolute best at what they do!

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